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The only one to be feared is God

Monday, September 14, 2015

People pleasing – the tendency to disconnect from our feelings in order to attend to the needs of others – has become an epidemic among women of all ages and backgrounds.

We are continuously seeking a positive evaluation from other people which we believe will fill us, confirm us, and thus bring us satisfaction.

People pleasing teaches us to serve the wrong master. As Christian women we are accountable to God and God alone. For as Paul reminds us, “Whatever you do work heartily, as for the Lord and not for men".

In Changes that Heal, Dr. Henry Cloud says:

If we feel responsible for other people’s feelings, we can no longer make decisions based on what is right; we will make decisions based on how others feel about our choices. Jesus said, ‘Woe to you when all men speak well of you’ (Luke 6:26).

If we are always trying to keep everyone happy then we cannot make the choices required to live correctly and freely.

We can’t determine how successfully we are living the Christian life by who is unhappy with us.

Dr Cloud continues to explains that we are responsible to people but not for them. Yes, we are to be considerate and kind toward others but there will still be moments when we need to say “no” and set limits and they’ll be disappointed. And that’s okay. It’s the same thing God does with us.

And looking back over your life, aren’t you so glad God didn’t give you everything you asked for?

Human approval, fear, insecurity and pride will remain our biggest struggle today and until we die.

These pangs of human nature will continue with each passing day, however, the cross of Christ is as powerful now as it always has been. Through Jesus’ resurrection death is conquered and the wrath of God is satisfied forever. Our security and affirmation is found in Christ alone.

As adults we have a responsibility to erase these lies that we’ve adopted with the truth.

Once you get that it truly is impossible to please everyone, you begin to live purposefully. You start spending your time and energy on things that bring meaningful results, rather than on the impossible goal of making everyone else happy.

The best part about pleasing God and not worrying about pleasing others is life gets a whole lot less complicated and much more happy.

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