Let's celebrate each other

As Christian women we are at different stages of the development of our faith. No one wakes up one morning and automatically becomes the best godly woman. This process takes time, consistency and patience.

Women shouldn’t be judging other women.  And yet it happens every day. The patriarch system has us pitted against each other and it wants to keep us from being whole and healthy as individuals and as a group. This results in a slew of catty, gossipy, passive-aggressive behaviour in young girls, teenage girls, adult women, and even wise old ladies.

But this petty, ungodly behaviour needs to stop.  We are damaging each other – chipping away at our hearts, our self esteem and our strength. And it is hypocritical to judge others on their mistakes when we make mistakes all the time. 

Most females, no matter how old they are will tell you that they’ve survived at least one type of mean girl in their past.

The hatred for other women comes from within. Once a woman hates herself, it’s easy to get her to hate another woman. I say this because if a woman who hates herself sees a woman who seemingly doesn’t hate herself, it’s easy for her to project the internalized hate onto another. Think about it. How many times have you heard, “Who does she think she is?” “She’s not all that anyway” “Why is she so full of herself?”

Women should empower each other instead of being so hateful towards each other. Love should be our guide.

Being judgmental of other women will cause you to live in hateful chaos. The minute you judge another woman you solidify imaginary rules in your mind for what is “acceptable” and what is “unacceptable.”

You must consciously rise above it if you want to be at peace with yourself and with other women.

We women have incredible power to lift every woman in our lives and help her to soar. We can’t help but take flight ourselves in the process.

When there are godly women in our circle, it’s harder for the nastiness and put-her-down of the world to find its way in.

Godly women know that every woman has a story and that you can learn something from most of them – even if it’s how not to be.

Godly women lift other women without fail even when they don't agree with their choices.

There’s a strange misconception among women that smarter, funnier, more confident, more beautiful, and more successful women lead perfect lives. It’s certainly not true. Every woman is fighting her own battle, no matter how many desirable traits she has.

As Ann Voskamp says, we are not here to be perfect. We are here to be real – to let Christ be real in us.

And the truth is, there will always be a woman who appears more blessed  than you. This should really serve as inspiration to you. If God can do it for them, He can definitely do it for you. And the more confident we are as individuals in the promises and plans of God, the less judgmental we are with others.

Realise that you are fearfully and wonderfully made. And God’s plans for you are perfect – nothing is missing and nothing is broken.

Surround yourself with as many empowered, non-judgmental, grown women as you possibly can. That means the more you hang with authentic women who are on a similar mission for self-love, the more likely you are to succeed at your own journey.

We all get it wrong sometimes. Don't be one of those righteous, jugdementals women who criticise and condemn another woman because her faults are different to theirs. Celebrate other sisters because it just feels better. Sisterhood all the way!