There is so much self-hatred, even in the Body of Christ. It comes from seeing our worth according to fleshly standards. It comes by comparing
ourselves with others instead of comparing ourselves with the will of God for our own lives. We read magazines or we see the media, and we compare ourselves with the super model, the super athlete, the super entrepreneur, the rich, famous, and beautiful, and we think we do not have a chance. We feel like a failure because we compare ourselves among ourselves.
‘You shall love your neighbor as yourself.’ (Mt. 22:39)
Now we will not love others well if we are overwhelmed by the negative, emotional traffic of our own bitterness, fears, and sense of rejection in us.
We naturally have struggles with rejection, insecurities, and fears. It is normal to our humanity. The tendency to compare ourselves with each another and to have bitterness and complaints is common to humans. But those things are emotional traffic that really minimizes and hinders our ability to love God, to love other people, and even to love ourselves.
So the Lord is showing us that as that emotional traffic is minimized by seeing the way He sees us and entering into the very love and delight He has for us we actually enter into that love and delight for our own lives—as that emotional traffic is minimized.
Woman of God, we will love far better—we will love better in our marriages, in our families, in our friendships, in the marketplace.
There is a deep connection between loving God, loving ourselves, and loving others. It is called the love of God. It is the love that dwells in God's own personality. It is God Himself; it is His presence.
We have a new identity in God.
When Jesus died for us on the cross, He made us a new creation in Christ and that is the person whom we love in the grace of God—we love who we are in the spirit and who we are in God's eyes because of what Jesus did for us. We see and love ourselves in the very love and delight that God
has for us and with the very value that He has for us.
God created each of us in a unique way as His workmanship (Eph. 2:10). We magnify Jesus as we love ourselves in agreement with the riches of His Grace and honor His “investment” in us.
The premise of loving ourselves in the Grace of God is to agree with what God values. God sees eternal values as superior to temporal values, and He sees our growth in godliness as superior to our external achievements when evaluating the success of our lives and rewarding us.
If we do not agree with God's values, we cannot connect with why He enjoys us, loves us, and why our life is powerful right now in His eyes, because it is not powerful in the eyes of others.
And loving ourselves according to the flesh is actually destructive, and we are to deny that kind of love. Loving ourselves in the grace of God will empower our lives and transform us.
We are to love ourselves in the very love in which we participate, the very love that God has for us, and we do this in light of what Jesus did for us on the cross.
We are to behold the quality of love that the Father has for us and refuse the false humility that minimizes how much God enjoys loving us and how He wants us to enjoy being loved by Him.
We love “the person” whom Jesus loves, died for, and made new in the grace of God. By seeing ourselves as those God loves, we are empowered to love ourselves so as to grow in love, gratitude, humility and purity.
Behold [focus on] what manner [quality] of love the Father has bestowed on us… (1 Jn. 3:1)
Notes from Mike Bickle.