Lessons I learned from my mother

Over the years there have been many people who've influenced me and taught me some valuable life lessons, but the person who has taught me some of the most important lessons is my mother. I always say, I see further in life because I am standing on a shoulder of a giant.  As Mother's Day approaches, I can't can't help but reflect on the impact of the lessons my mother taught me. Our mothers deserve to be recognised for what they do and the sacrifices they have made for us. Our mothers are a true definition of strength, courage and wisdom. We spoke to five amazing women about the lessons they have learned from their mothers.

Tumelo Mothotoane: What my mother taught me about hard work


The generation of women in my family has a natural ability of making something out of nothing.  From my maternal great-grandmother, passed down to my grandmother and then my mother, there is a thread that connects these three influential women in my life and that is hard work.  Growing up as the only girl amongst my siblings, Mama, as I affectionately call her, taught me the value of hard work as a young, black South African woman.  She instilled in me from a young age that character, hard work and discipline helps us achieve whatever we set our hearts and mind to. I was never encouraged to depend on my physical appearance or the type of clothes that I wear to get me where I want to be but to turn hard work into a lifestyle.  Along with hard work, Mama, taught me to treat people with kindness and respect because to achieve my goals I have to collaborate with people who are like-minded. Today, I work 7 days a week and I am in-between jobs because I have a clear understanding that to reach my ultimate career destination, I need discipline and hard work. This wisdom is all thanks to my Mother.

Fikiswa Magala Zali: What my mother taught me about family

995237_10152410847929056_1581863194_nI was taught that as family we should be there for each other no matter what and my mother still reminds us that even to this day.

Being a divorced mother, raising three children and your brother’s two children is not a child’s play. Yet my mother did it and still loved us unconditionally. She taught us to be there for each other no matter what, appreciate each other’s differences, never compare ourselves to anyone, appreciate the little that we have been given and strive to be better people. I was taught to treat my older brother and younger sister the way I would like to be treated.

My mother taught me that no matter how angry or unhappy you are with your sibling you don’t let the world know about it.  And that you share the little that you have with them.

She also taught me that there is no better child than the other; you are all special with different gifts and talents. If you didn’t work for it you can’t have it. You reap what you saw.

She also taught us to pray for each other. When one is weak they should be able to pull strength from the one that is stronger.

And the best gift you can give to your sibling is to make them smile and to enjoy laughter together. Most of all, my mother taught me to love God, to love ourselves so that we can love the next person.


Nonhlanhla Sam Maseko-Gcabashe: What my mother taught me about motherhood:


My mother taught me many things about motherhood without actually spelling it out but by leaving the lesson. These lessons actually came alive when I had children. Half of my years were lived being raised by a single mother. And throughout that time, my mother made many sacrifices for us.

Two lessons I want to highlight that my mother instilled in me:

Lesson 1: My kids don’t owe me anything. I am the one who has to make sure that my kids live a good life, provide a warm home for them, i.e. “a nest without thorns”, protect them and give them a better life than I ever had. I also owe it to my kids to look after myself by being healthy.

Lesson 2: Teach my children about handling finances. My mother taught me about paying myself first, tithing and being responsible with my finances. As a mother I understand that it’s important to teach my kids about being masters over their finances, by saving for that rainy day and by honouring God with their first fruit.

She taught me to enjoy life with my kids because she always enjoyed life with us even with the little that we had. I’m thankful daily for the life of my kids and I spend my days with them laughing, playing and having lots of tickles.

Above all life’s lessons, my mother taught me that I owe it to my kids to give them an inheritance that is incorruptible, to teach them to have a relationship with Jesus and to help them understand the importance of prayer and the Word of God.

Melody Botya: What my mother taught me about having faith in God


I am the eldest daughter of Aurelia Botya (nee Mapasa) and I have three younger siblings. I am the test and testimony of my Mother’s faith.  She became a mother through faith.

And it was through faith that my mother raised us a family and built a career for herself.

She taught me that you practice faith daily. You live by it, you dream through it, you are healed by faith, you reach higher in life and eventually through faith the unseen becomes visible.  She taught me that life is the endurance of love that is planted in faith and answered prayers are faith filled prayers.

I appreciate the many countless unseen things she did for us.

Hebrews 11: v 1:  “the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen. (NKJV)

Christill Cave: What my mother taught me about being a godly woman

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I am blessed with two beautiful and God fearing women in my life who have influenced me to be the best that I can possibly be. I don't have one mother but I have two of them - my mom who gave birth to me and her mom, my granny. Both these two women have contributed so much in my life and I thank God for them.
While growing up, I gave both my moms trouble. I was not interested in going to Church or even knowing about God.  Both my moms used to share with me many Bible scriptures and one that comes to mind is Colossians 3:20 where is says, “children, obey your parents in all things, for this is well and pleasing to the Lord”.  Today I understand that scripture and the importance of going to Church, reading the Bible, being a faithful believer and obeying my parents.  My moms taught me how to be a wise, godly woman.
My birth mother used to say to me: “when you get to be my age, you'll understand why I am doing what I am doing now”.  I see some of the life lessons play out in my life and I’m still learning to understand some of them. The pain they went through just so that I can be the best I can be in life shows unconditional love which I am forever thankful for. I thank God for both of them.

To all the mothers, mother figures and spiritual mothers, we pray God's special blessing on your life.  May your life reflect the riches of God God's glory.

Matthew 15:4-6: For God said, 'Honor your father and mother' and 'Anyone who curses his father or mother must be put to death.' But you say that if a man says to his father or mother, 'Whatever help you might otherwise have received from me is a gift devoted to God,' he is not to 'honor his father ' with it. Thus you nullify the word of God for the sake of your tradition.

What lessons have you learned from your mother?