Learn to say NO, gracefully

Have you ever had to say NO before and and felt afraid that you are committing a hideous crime by saying it?  In your mind, you are  scared that other people will be angry or they will think badly of you. But these are false beliefs.

As Christian women, we usually aim to please. We have this belief that we are expected to indulge requests because it shows that  we care. We reluctantly say yes, when we really wanted to say no and so we find ourselves trapped into doing something that we really did not want to do. We end up being in situations that place us in compromising positions with our beliefs and standards, family rules or personal desires.

But as the daughters of the most High God we have to learn to say NO. Rather than avoid it altogether, it’s all about learning the right way to say no. If we are to grow in faith, we need to reject  the things that steal away the life that God intended for us. It's not that we shouldn't spend time helping others, but there is a balance and we need to learn it.

There are five reasons why women over commit themselves to projects they should be saying  NO to:

  • Guilt.

  • Pride.

  • People Pleasing.

  • Insecurity.

  • Superwoman Mentality.

Learn to say no



In Titus 2:11-12 Paul said, "For the grace of God that brings salvation has appeared to all men. It teaches us to say "No" to ungodliness and worldly passions, and to live self-controlled, upright and godly lives in this present age ... (NIV).

When you take on more than you can handle, you will eventually burn out or hurt people. Learning to say NO shows that you know your limits. Learning to say NO is about respecting and valuing your time and space.

Tips for handling requests:

  • Think about each request carefully.

  • Sleep on it if you have to. Don't give an immediate answer.

  • Always seek God's help.

  • Let the peace of God guide you in the decisions that you make.

  • Be honest with yourself and with people. Over committing is destructive.

If you have not learned to say NO to people when the need arises this will be a challenge at first. But managing these two words (yes & no) is a tremendous part of our day to day. We need to use them wisely!!