Female relationship breakers

As women it’s good to periodically  reassess our relationships with others and check if they still add value to our lives or not. Some friends do more harm than good. One of the questions I always ask, when I am deciding whether to stay in a relationship or not, is…what has my time with this person taught me?

Can they continue to contribute to my life and can I also contribute to their lives? I personally don't like be dead wood that has no fire because I don't like the same in my life. If the answer is NO after praying about it then I just move on. Life is too short to be pre-occupied with stuff that God never gave you. I always say that every friendship and relationship must be governed by God's Grace. If there's no Grace then let's move on, otherwise we do each other harm than good. So what are the female relationship breakers? Here is a list of the relationship breakers that I've observed over the years in my walk with other women:


Money is the number one relationship breaker. When a friend borrows money and does not return it this spells trouble for the relationship. Rather ask for the money. I know that most of us are willing and ready to help out a friend. But when you borrow and don’t return the money the friend feels cheated and taken for a granted. If you want the relationship to work, learn to trust God and be honest about your money problems with your friends. Don't take people for a ride.

Live your life

There’s nothing that’s so annoying as a friend that copies everything you do or say. Or a friend that lives under your shadow or envies you.  We are all fearfully and wonderfully made. Celebrate you and stop thinking that somebody else is better than you. God doesn’t make mistakes.

Give and take

A relationship is a two way street. And we need to remember that relationships are about taking and giving. Your friends can’t be the only ones that are constantly taking you out on a date, calling you, etc. If you believe that they are your friend please make some effort to meet them half way.


As women we love to share everything and anything. This is can be good but it can also be bad. The good side is that we can carry each other’s burden or celebrate each other’s success. The bad thing is that when your girlfriend shares personal stuff about her man and you think it’s your responsibility to correct him.  That’s a big NO NO!! Encourage her by reminding her to pray about the relationship but let your girlfriend sort out her own problems. That man is not your business. Stay away.

Quotes on Friendship: 

  • As iron sharpens iron, so a friend sharpens a friend - Psalm 27:17

  • A true friend never gets in your way unless you happen to be going down - Arnold H. Glasow

  • A friend to all is a friend to none - Aristotle

What's your big NO, NO in your friendships?