In this heart to heart interview we speak to television actress and presenter, Salamina Mosese about her joining Top Billing, getting married and being a godly citizen of the Kingdom of God. Here's the interview below.
Inside Woman: It's been one of the coldest winters we have experienced in the country. How do you keep your energy levels up?
Salamina Mosese: I enjoy my sleep so much, so it is not always easy to drag myself out of bed. But a big glass of orange juice, a jam- session with my favourite CD for that day, in my lounge while I get ready and I feel ready to face the world. On days when I am not working, I love playing tennis. Plus Wimbledon fever has been in the air.
Inside Woman: A lot of people don't know that you are a Christian. Can you tell us about the journey that led to your acceptance of Jesus Christ as your personal Saviour?
Salamina Mosese: I think there has come a time in most people’s lives where they realise that they can’t do it all by themselves. That you need to let yourself be parented by the One who will never disappoint you nor forsake you. I had a nervous breakdown in my first year at varsity, and I was hospitalised and was clinically depressed for a long time after that. But the greatest realisation for me was seeing that all the doctors and anti-depressants in the world can’t save you from yourself, I had to get back to the heart of the matter. That is when a friend invited me to Rhema Bible church, and my life changed course that day. I was not fixed in a day, but I began my journey towards healing, in the right way.
Inside Woman: How does your faith help you with life in the public eye, the good and the bad?
Salamina Mosese: Without it I would have given up a long time ago! As a young woman growing up, I have always struggled with self esteem issues. So you can imagine that with me being in an industry that is so looks-oriented and image conscious, there are constant issues that creep into my own mind as to whether I am adequate, good enough, pretty enough, talented enough. But Yes ,because of my firm belief in the fact that God would never take me where His grace couldn’t keep me or where His arms couldn’t support me, I know I am in this chosen field for a bigger purpose than I may even realise.
Inside Woman: How important is prayer and studying of the Bible in your walk with Jesus!
Salamina Mosese: Every relationship, new or old, needs constant work, time and effort on your part. I think it is the same with Jesus, the more we converse with Him, read the Word and live it, the closer we feel to Him and thus the more satisfying the relationship will be.
Inside Woman: What do you think is the hallmark of being a Christian?
Salamina Mosese: It is about more than church attendance, it is about being in fellowship and relationship. And Love, one of the most important commandments, If we do not love others, and God first, how can we profess to be Christ-like?
Inside Woman: What is it that you think we need to do as Christians to show people God's love?
Salamina Mosese: Give, not only out of your abundance. Smile at a complete stranger and be kind. It shouldn’t be something that you have to consciously think about all the time. It should flow out of you. Let people see the Love of God in your manner and in your actions.
Inside Woman: The Bible says that we are saved by Grace! What does that mean to you?
Salamina Mosese: Oh Grace! It is God’s undeserved favour to us. We need not earn it, or strive for it, yet He gives it any way. Can you imagine a bigger symbol of His love for us than this?
Inside Woman: There are so many scandals in politics and the entertainment world that it’s hard to find a good role model. Besides you, of course, who is a good role model?
Salamina Mosese: We are all imperfect beings, on our own journeys. I am grateful that people consider me a role model, and I value it. But I am flawed too; I just know how to conduct myself in a manner that wouldn’t embarrass my mother, hahaha. A good role model has a good foundation of morals on which they base their lives; it is someone who has qualities that they display that other people want to emulate. If I have touched even two people in my years in the entertainment industry, then I am happy.
Inside Woman: With the 21st century's materialism, how do you think spirituality should fit in with our lives?
Salamina Mosese: Remember that all things pass with time. And all the worldly possessions don’t mean that one will be happy. How many unhappy, unfulfilled people do we read and hear about? The reality is: If we all truly knew our worth we wouldn’t put some much importance on the things and possessions that we can acquire on earth.
Inside Woman: How important is it to have the support of matured Christian women surrounding you?
Salamina Mosese: I have my mom, granny, mother-in-law and a chosen spiritual mother, who are always just an sms away. They encourage me, support me and help me to pray when I am too weary to wage the war myself. I don’t know where I would be without them.
Inside Woman: You are a newlywed! Did you ever struggle with being single and why do you think that many Christian ladies who are single are struggling with their singleness?
Salamina Mosese: Yes I did struggle. I was looking for people to fill me, and help me to feel whole. But you get burnt a lot when you are looking to a man or a boyfriend to be to you, what only God should be. I always felt like I needed more, until I realised that I needed to love myself enough to know my worth, and no man can determine that for you.
Inside Woman: In addition to being a newlywed, you are travelling with Top Billing, which has been your dream since your 15 years old. How do you balance that with being a wife?
Salamina Mosese: The travelling is really not hectic at all. But even if it was, my marriage comes first, and the day I got married my path and purpose changed. It’s not just about my career anymore. I now revel in the blessing that I get to cater to my man, and I don’t feel robbed. That’s why I know that we were ready to get married when we did. Because for the first time in my life I really understood what it meant to die to self, be one. I love my husband, and when I feel the need to take time off to be with him, I do it without reservation. But I am really lucky, because Howza is so understanding, and he knows the demands of my job, so he doesn’t impose.
Inside Woman: Were there any sacrifices you had to make for your dream?
Salamina Mosese: We all have to make sacrifices. It is all about knowing what you value above all, and then re-shuffling your life in accordance. But I still dream with my eyes closed, and when I open them, if they are unwavering I will hold fast onto them. God will do the rest!
Inside Woman: You have been in the industry for some time now; obviously you had to face rejection! How did the rejections make you feel and what did you do to overcome the blows?
Salamina Mosese: The rejection keeps you humble, and the pain makes you strong. “Count it all joy when you fall into various trials, knowing that the testing of your faith produces patience.” If there is one thing that I have learnt in the eleven years that I have been on TV it is that, patience truly is a virtue. But when you get what you truly desire, there is no greater reward.
Inside Woman: People can be judgmental when it comes to success in mainstream culture. What do you say to convince them this is your calling?
Salamina Mosese: A lot of people think that fame is easy and glamorous, but the truth is it is a huge responsibility and this is industry is not very forgiving if you work in it. So one should really know what it is that they want to be on TV for. If you have to work really hard to be noticed then it means that you are doing it for yourself, and that it’s not God’s will for your life. You are constantly trying to bend His will to fit your will.
Inside Woman: Many Christian women struggle with eating disorders and body image issues. You are in the public eye; do you ever feel the pressure?
Salamina Mosese: I did when I was in high school. I even tried the bulimia thing for a week, but it wasn’t to be. It was too hard trying to hide it all the time- plus when I found out that the gastric juices that come up with the bile actually rots your teeth, I was scared beyond belief. Buying new teeth just wasn’t in the budget!It is not unusual to suffer these attacks of low self esteem, but one needs to know that there are created for a purpose, that we are fearfully and wonderfully. That we are not mistakes, and once you learn to accept that you can’t improve on a perfect work (because that’s how God sees us- as His perfect works) then you will find peace. Eat right, live full and enjoy every minute that you can.
Inside Woman: A lot of people equate success with money. What does success mean to you?
Salamina Mosese: To me success is being truly happy with your God-given self. When you know that you lack for nothing , because our Father in Heaven has got it all mapped out. I have not quite reached this point, but when I do- I will personally drop you a mail!
Inside Woman: Are there any future projects that you hope to dive into that are unlike anything you've ever done before?
Salamina Mosese: Motherhood!!!!!!!!
Inside Woman: For the Christian women who are on the edge of burnout, what hope would you offer them today? I know what it feels like to feel like there is no hope, and I am no psychologist, but I can recommend a really good one. He can found in Matthew 11: 28 where He says, “Come to me all of you who are weary and carry heavy burdens, and I will give you rest.”
Inside Woman: What advice do you have for Christian women keen to do what you do?
Salamina Mosese: Know for sure that you want it for the right reasons. It is a hard industry- plus we don’t get benefits i.e. medical aid.
Inside Woman: Do you want to be seen as a role model?
Salamina Mosese: It doesn’t frighten me, because I am willing to be held accountable for my behaviour and I try not to put myself in situations where my morality will be in question. Again I emphasis, being a role model is not about perfection, it is just about wanting to live right, and striving for it at all times.
Inside Woman: If you had to do it over again, would you have chosen another route to be where you are?
Salamina Mosese: My steps have been ordered by God. So it is not by own strength or wisdom- but by His. I believe there will come a time where this too shall pass, but for now, I wouldn’t be anywhere else but here.