We should be always content, but never satisfied, in our relationship with God. What does this mean? It means God should always satisfy us, no matter what our circumstances may be. He should be our All in All. If we have God, we have everything; and He fills and satisfies us completely.
However, we should never be satisfied to mantain the status quo in our relationship with Him. We should always desire to know Him more tomorrow, than we do today. We should always hunger and thirst for a deeper relationship with Him.
Often when someone doesn’t feel satisfied by God enough, there’s some condemnation coming from the enemy if they are really attempting to follow the Lord.
Living from legalism can also cause people to feel like they don’t love God, or love Him enough, because they are focusing on their own behavior and measuring themselves against a law He isn’t requiring. So it’s not Him really they are attempting to follow, but a misconception of Him. He doesn’t require legalism. He came to free us from it. Rules of ‘you-have-to’ or ‘you-better-not’ result in a feeling of futility which don’t exactly make for lovey feelings, do they? That’s a door that needs to be closed so they can find the Shepherd of their soul welcoming them into His loving care.
Another fairly common cause for not “feeling” love for God is that there are people who have been so beat up in life and so betrayed that their internal emotional ‘love acceptance’ doesn’t work very well. They may be shut off in their emotions but still value Jesus and His Word as supreme in their lives. For those who have suffered rejection, never given the sense that they measured up, and were always lacking approval, they are likely to feel that they don’t love Him enough and their love for Him is inadequate.
The Bible tells us, “We love (Him) because He first loved us” (1 John 4:19). It may be that if we feel as if we don’t love Him, we just don’t know how to accept being loved like He loves entirely and completely.
If we’re believers, then we need to believe that He loves us. Again, it’s a choice. Faith is often a choice to accept as fact what we know to be true, even if our feelings jump up and down and tell us otherwise. The fact is, He loved each of us enough to lay down His life for us way before we ever knew Him. Besides, we didn’t really choose Him, Abba chose us: “He chose us in Him before the foundation of the world, that we would be holy and blameless before Him in love” (Eph. 1:4).
Remember, relationships must be cultivated. Cultivation takes time. Relationships just don’t happen. You must nurture them; you must put effort into them; you must make time for them. They are not automatic just because they’re your children, or your spouse, or a friend (Prov 18:24); nor is your relationship with God automatic, just because you got born-again. You must take time to seek His face; you must want to be with Him. When you make that decision, you will not be disappointed.