Inside Woman: Please share your testimony of how you came to know Jesus Christ as personal Lord and Saviour?
Coletta Renee: As a child being raised in the Catholic Church, I’ve always had a deep relationship with Jesus the Christ. As I spiritually matured in that relationship, it became apparent to me that with every test God allows, we have a choice to turn those tests into testimonies. I have many testimonies that have brought me closer to my Lord and Saviour Jesus.
Inside Woman: Can a person have a relationship with God apart from Jesus Christ?
Coletta Renee: No. John 6:40 For my Father's will is that everyone who looks to the Son and believes in him shall have eternal life, and I will raise him up at the last day." Throughout the Bible, there are too many indications that we cannot come to God except through His Son Jesus.
Inside Woman: What where your struggles as a young woman growing up and how did you overcome those issues?
Coletta Renee: Growing up, I was extremely shy and withdrawn. I was an only child for years and since my dad was in the military, we moved around quite a bit. I was also always the new kid which surprisingly worked to my advantage because it seemed that people were drawn to me. The only problem with that is that I was socially very awkward and had experienced things girls my age had not like travelling abroad, speaking other languages and being a bookworm. I had to learn how to be interested in other topics so that I could engage others my age in conversation.
Inside Woman: How did you discover your call as a teacher and minister of the Word of God?
Coletta Renee: The Nun’s in the Catholic Church provided mentorship and one of my dreams was to become a Nun in the Catholic Church so my call came very early in life. I studied to become a Nun.
Inside Woman: What’s the mandate that God has given you for your ministry?
Coletta Renee: My mandate is to teach women from every walk of life to live by God’s two greatest commandments which is to Love God with all our hearts and to love one another as God loves us. I believe that it has worked very well for me because I love God’s creation and don’t bend the rules based on gender.
Inside Woman: Why do you think it’s so important to study the Word of God daily as a believer?
Coletta Renee: I believe that it’s important to study to show thyself approved unto God first and foremost but the wonderful thing about scripture is that whenever we read and study God’s Word, we gain a greater knowledge and understanding about our own lives.
Inside Woman: How important is prayer in your walk with God?
Coletta Renee: Prayer is engaging in a dialogue with our Lord and Saviour which include actively listening. It is extremely important in our spiritual growth.
Inside Woman: There’s so much confusion about what’s Biblically correct. How do you clearly, unmistakably know that it is God speaking to you, not the devil or your own voice?
Coletta Renee: God’s sheep know His voice. When we are very intentional and deliberate in our prayers to God by dying to self, hearing God’s voice isn’t as difficult as one might think.
Inside Woman: How important is the spiritual guidance of your spiritual parents?
Coletta Renee: My spiritual parents have been priests and nuns. I learned a great deal of compassion, love and sense of total dependence on God from them.
Inside Woman: What is the danger in having a vision that has not had adequate prayer and direction from God?
Coletta Renee: Whenever we step outside of God’s will for our lives to pursue our own goals, failure lies ahead. There are too many characters in the Bible to support the fate we suffer when we don’t abide by God’s commands for our lives. His vision and plans for our lives are the only ones we should seek.
Inside Woman: Is it important to have spiritual mentors?
Coletta Renee: Absolutely. My mentors are not limited to Priests and Nuns but to ordinary people that God has chosen for extraordinary tasks.
Inside Woman: What if a woman hears from God about starting a ministry, but her spiritual parent(s) isn’t behind her–doesn’t support her. Should she press forward?
Coletta Renee: Yes. Oftentimes, when the Church is not behind a ministry, it is for selfish reasons or motives. In addition, many have gone forth by stepping out on faith and have dispelled many myths from Churches or spiritual parents that failure is imminent without the Church’s backing.
Inside Woman: It seems that women (more so than men) tend to struggle with issues like gossip and backbiting, and are often too quick to take offense. How can we help women to curb those so called natural female tendencies to really have healthy relationships that last?
Coletta Renee: First, I believe that women must embrace who we are and how important our role is within the Body of Christ. With the same fervor used to gossip about others, it can used to spread the gospel of Jesus the Christ. Imagine the force women would have if our tongues were used for healing each other instead of hurting one another.
Inside Woman: What is your view on how women of God should dress? And is this still an issue that needs to be addressed?
Coletta Renee: I believe that a woman should dress in whatever manner she deems appropriate. It is the responsibility of the Body of Christ to focus on helping her cultivate her relationship with Christ and wanting to please Him instead of pleasing people who won’t decide whether or not she’ll make it to Heaven or not. In addition, the Word of God should be applied to the ‘Believer’s’ life to build our self-esteem and not as a tool against others . 1 Samuel 16:7, “But the LORD said to Samuel, "Do not consider his appearance or his height, for I have rejected him. The LORD does not look at the things man looks at. Man looks at the outward appearance, but the LORD looks at the heart."
Inside Woman: Nowadays many women are very aggressive and desperate when it comes to securing a husband. What can they do to trust God to orchestrate their love story?
Coletta Renee: Every woman needs to know that for every Adam, there is an Eve. Continue to wait on God.
Inside Woman: Did you struggle with being a single woman?
Coletta Renee: I never asked God for a husband. I believe that because ‘not’ finding a husband was my focus but pleasing God, it made me more attractive.
Inside Woman: What keys have you learned on being a godly woman and wife?
Coletta Renee: I am a woman who desires to please and submit to the Lord above all else. Godly women who strive to please the Lord will very easily submit to their husbands because submission is power. Part of the reason why some women have problems with submitting to their husbands it is because, they've allowed others to define biblical submission, which often is misunderstood as being subservient. A godly husband understands the power of submission to the Lord as well.
Here are a few scriptures to support biblical submission:
Be devoted to one another in brotherly love. Honour one another above yourselves. Romans 12:10
- Nobody should seek his own good, but the good of others. 1 Corinthians 10:24
- Be kind and tender-hearted to one another, forgiving each other just as in Christ, God forgave you. Ephesians 4:32
- As God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. Colossians 3:12
- In humility consider other better than yourselves. Each should look not only to your own interests but also to the interests of others. Philippians 2:3b-4
Inside Woman: How did you know that your husband was the guy you wanted to spend the rest of your life with?
Coletta Renee: My husband loved and desired to please the Lord more than me. Although He believes that I am the most beautiful woman he has ever seen, I made it clear that if I felt that he idolized me in the biblical sense, I would no longer be interested. Jesus was the only perfect man who walked the earth so if anyone idolizes another human, eventually their flaws will become more dominant characteristics and often time’s marriages fail because someone expects to marry a perfect person.
Inside Woman: What would you say to a woman who is going through a divorce right now and is feeling hopeless?
Coletta Renee: While not strongly suggested, there are grounds for divorce. The Bible tells a man that he is to love his wife as Christ loves the church. Christ would not verbally, emotionally, psychologically, etc abuse the church so if a man treats his wife less than Christ would treat the Church (as a body of Christ as well as individually), that is grounds of dissolution. When questioned by the Pharisees about God's laws, Jesus shares that God's two greatest commands are to love God with all our hearts and to love one another as God loves us. Nowhere in those two commands does it support abuse in any form. I mentor women of domestic violence who have been so brainwashed by someone else's interpretation of God's word that it's sometimes very difficult to remind them that God has given them the ability to interpret the text as well. There is no need to feel hopeless when God's Word offers encouragement, empowerment and instructions.
Inside Woman: How do you motivate yourself to go on when you face challenges?
Coletta Renee: I remind myself that if God worked miracles in my life before, He can do it again.
Inside Woman: What is your advice to Christian women and young girls struggling to find their true passion in life?
Coletta Renee:: Prayer. It sounds simple but the more your relationship with God deepens, the more He will open the door to where He wants you to go until it no longer seems like work. There’s a difference between enjoying what you do, ie hobby and passion. Only God can bring out passions in us.
Inside Woman: What are your words of encouragement for people who may have gifts, talents, desires and dreams but they feel ‘stuck’?
Coletta Renee: Set aside any fears you have, replace them with FAITH in God then GO FOR IT! It’s always important to note that whatever God allows to happen in our lives, it will all turn out for our good eventually.
Inside Woman: As a woman does it matter how you look like on the outside?
Coletta Renee: To some degree but when your focus is on pleasing Jesus, you’ll want your heart/spirit to exude more beauty than your outward appearance.
Inside Woman: I learned that like me you are an INFP. How did you find out and how has this helped you in your walk with God?
Coletta Renee: I used to struggle with how much I should share with others about myself because those moments of transparency have been used against me but the stronger my relationship becomes with Jesus, the more I realize that my obedience reaps rewards such as saving people from committing suicide, ending their marriages, etc.
Inside Woman: Should Christians read horoscopes, consult with Tarrot cards and read star signs?
Coletta Renee: I wouldn’t advise anyone to believe in horoscopes or consult Tarrot cards or Pychics because the Bible has the answer to any question we have. If your answers did not come from Jesus, it is witchcraft.
Inside Woman: How would you introduce Jesus Christ to a woman engrossed in depression, oppression and pain?
Coletta Renee: I would share my own testimony of how Jesus delivered me from years of depression then share Jesus’ moments of sorrow in the Gospels.
Inside Woman: What’s on the radar for you in 2013?
Coletta Renee: My only focus is to win more souls for Christ by obeying God.
Inside Woman: What’s your favourite scripture and why?
Coletta Renee: Genesis 1:27, “So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them.” The reason why this is my favourite scripture is because at my lowest point, the Holy Spirit kept reminding me that the world has never defined who I was because God created me in His image.
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